How to change your paradigm and boost your confidence

In a previous post on paradigms, you learned the concept of paradigms; how they developed in us; how to recognize them; and the root of all negative paradigms. Since paradigms control each and every action we take, therefore we must get rid of our old paradigms that are not letting us move forward in achieving our goals. In this post, we shall explore the methods and see how to change your paradigm.

Given below are six tried and tested methods for changing your paradigms. If you really want to change your paradigms, then it’s important to have discipline and commit yourself to at least one.I encourage you to take out your personal journal and schedule a time to perform the method of your choosing.

1. Meditation

When you hear the word ‘meditation’ you might instantly think of the lengthy meditations thailand-buddhists-monks-and-50709from the eastern meditation discipline. Well, that might calm you down and increase your focus, but it surely won’t change your paradigms forever. To change your paradigms, you have to meditate on your desires.

To do so, first, you need to make a list of all the things you want. Listed below are some questions you can ask yourself before beginning to meditate, that will help you focus:

  • What do you really want to achieve in life?
  • Where do you see yourself 3/5/10 years from now?
  • What kind of a business do you want to own?
  • What kind of a house do you want to live?
  • Which city do you want to live in?
  • How many foreign vacations do you want every year?
  • Where are the places you want to have a vacation home?
  • How do you want others to see you?


The meditation will help you make a mental movie of you living your dreams right now. How happy would you be if you achieved all that you listed? feel that feeling.

Once your mental movie of your dreams is ready, allocate yourself twenty minutes every day in the morning, afternoon and evening. Mediate for only twenty minutes three times a day on your purpose, vision, and goals.

2.  Affirmations

Affirmations are true statements that you keep repeating to yourself all day long. You know that your negative paradigms developed because the people in your surroundings kept repeating the same old negative and statements to you over and over again. And your mind picked up the statements involuntarily and you accepted them to be true.

Now that you’ve learned the truth about paradigms, you can start working on feeding positive and constructive statements to your mind.

Take a pen and a notepad. Please don’t use a computer for writing your affirmations. Write your affirmations in your very own handwriting. Always keep the affirmations in present tense.

For example: “I am so happy and grateful now that I am totally healed and my body is in perfect health.” Or “I am happy, joyful, serene, and in peace all day long” and “Money comes to me effortlessly through multiple sources.”

Repeat this affirmation for 90–120 days every day, right before retiring at night; right upon waking up in the morning; and as many times as possible during the rest of the day. Carry your affirmation as a goal card in your wallet. You’ll witness the miracle yourself.

3. Slideshow

During your meditation session, you make a mental movie of your entire life. Why not put those pictures on a slideshow? Take the help of a search engine and download pictures of your favorite luxurious houses, yachts, vacation destinations, business class travel, etc., and make a slideshow of just five minutes.

Whenever you take a break from work, watch this slideshow to elevate your feelings.

4. Documentaries/Films

You must’ve heard of the blockbuster movie The Secret. Well, even before the secret many documentaries and films were released on the subject of human potential development. Search for all the movies that talk about using and applying the law of pexels-photo-27008attraction.

Watch the previews or trailers of such movies, and buy DVDs of any three of your favorites. The next time you get an urge to watch your favorite thriller, action or comedy movies, just remind yourself that you are on a mission to change your paradigms; and put on a human potential development movie which will help cease the old thinking pattern of your mind.

5. Audio Lectures

Most authors these days are taking the help of Amazon’s Audible service and releasing their books in audio format as well. You can search and buy a copy of the audiobook of your all time favorite self-development book if you have any (I personally love “Think and grow rich” by Napoleon hill).

Make a habit of listening to great audiobooks or lectures by some of the greatest authors of self-development, in your spare time. To take this step a bit further, carry your digital music player with you during a stroll or a drive. Even while you’re taking a stroll or driving, your subconscious mind will pick up all the great teachings of these greatest authors, which will propel you to take the right actions and meet the right people to attain your goal.

6. Self-help Books

Aspexels-photo-110252 a child, you probably heard or read fantasy stories and fairy tales. With fairy tales, your imagination was at its peak, but as you gradually moved to higher grades, you were expected to let go of fairy tales, and concentrate more on your syllabus. All the opinions—published in newspapers, books, or any other form of media—that you’ve read and supported, developed your paradigms.

From now on, stack a library of self-help books. Visit your nearest bookstore and start building a collection. You become what you surround yourself with. Surround yourself with the best books on self-development.

Read these books as often as possible. Don’t force yourself to read an entire chapter or a section. If it’s only one page that you can absorb properly, then that’s enough for you. As time progresses, all the truths of these books shall become your new paradigms, which will take only toward success.

A famous quote from Napoleon Bonaparte says: “I can only see the objective; the obstacle must give way.” remind yourself that you are in the process of changing your old paradigms and habits, and stay true to your cause.

Final Thoughts

Practice any of the aforementioned techniques non-stop for 90–120 days. If you miss a day in between the schedule due to any reason, then start the exercises from the very next day, counting it as the first day of the new schedule. You have to keep instilling positive thoughts until you finally and firmly believe that you can have, do, or be anything it is you want.

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